Q: My husband had an affair. Where did I go wrong and what did I do to make him want to be with someone else?
A: We can think of a million and one things that we could've, should've and would've done differently in hopes that it might have derailed the entire event. And yes, there are lessons we should learn in every trial. But yet, with all that being said, it still boils down to each of us taking full responsibility for our own actions. Covering or accepting the blame for his dumb choice doesn't help either of you, and it may eventually make allowances for a rerun — and I know you don't want that.

Q: My husband seems to always find time to spend with his family and buddies, but when I try to get him to do something with me or the kids, he's either too tired or has something else to do. What's up with that?
A: You may want to check things out just in case this is a little deeper than fellowship time with the family. If he's not where he said he would be, you need to deal with that. Only the truth will make you free. On the other hand, if he's legitimately spending time with them, then hallelujah! Use wisdom and think of things that would interest him. Going to see a tear-jerker at the movies or shopping at the mall may not be his cup of tea.

Q: I've been hurt and I don't trust anyone, but I'm lonely. How do I break this cycle?
A: Because you have been hurt, you have walls up — walls of distrust, unforgiveness and low self-esteem. You feel that if you let yourself trust again you will get hurt again, so you put yourself in isolation from the world and everyone who's around you. Until you forgive the person who hurt you, the walls will stay up and you will continue to feel isolated and alone. Forgiveness is key to breaking this cycle. Forgiveness releases the person who hurt you, but more importantly, it releases you to be free.

Q: When you have shared a lengthy married life with an individual and then get divorced, how do you get rid of the feeling that you wasted years of your life on that person?
A: As much as we would all like to, we can't change our past, but we can embrace our future. Understand that everything you experienced has made you stronger and wiser. You have a divine destiny ahead of you, but you can't get there looking backwards! Oh, and by the way, when you put your faith in Jesus Christ, He will restore your years!

Q: I know as a Christian I am supposed to forgive, but it's easier said than done. When I see people I don't like, I try to avoid them as much as possible. How do I get pass this?
A: Forgiveness is a choice. It is not about feelings, but rather a conscious decision to release someone from an obligation. God commands us to forgive and even warns us that failure to do so hinders our prayers. The person who forgives often benefits far more than the person who is forgiven.

Q: I've tried everything to get my sister to come to church and live a godly lifestyle but nothing seems to work. What do I do?
A: First, pray for her (and continue to pray) and remember that her coming to God is a choice she must make. Next, examine yourself. Do you speak positively of your church or do you complain about the things that are going on? Do you attend church faithfully? Do you speak highly of the pastor and other leaders? Remember, you may be the only Bible that she's reading.